After learning what dialectics are, it is important to see how we apply the concept and how we challenge the old black and white / opposite thinking.
We use 2 resources this week. Lane Peterson - DBT Skills Training Manual and Atomic Thinking - James Clear ( all on amazon ) .
Dialectics are helpful way to view the world. In simple terms, it is when two opposing truths can be true at the same time.
Dialectics are helpful way to view the world.
a.) Dialectics teach us that there are more than one way to see a situation and more than one way to solve any problem.
b.) Dialectics consider all people to have unique qualities and different points of view.
c.) Dialectics stress the important of looking at the world with an open mind, without absolutes, avoiding black and white, all or nothing thinking.
d.) Dialectics points out that only change is constant.
The Behavior Chain Analysis Tool is used many times through out the DBT treatment. It can feel overwhelming to some and it is designed to help the client and therapist both understand all the surrounding elements that cause problematic behavior.
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Relationships take work. The healthy ones show signs of repairs and valuing each other in the relationships. The Toxic ones have warnings signs and Red Flags. Be Sure to check out the full list of the 25 Red Flags at our Website www.findingmiddlepath.com
Have you head of the 5 Love Languages? This is a book written by Gary Chapman that helps any relationship to understand how they give and receive love. Identifying and defining each one will help you in communicating with your partner what you need and better understand their needs as well.
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When learning how to be the most effective in relationships we not only need to learn the criteria of when to say no and when to say yes, it is nice to have additional criteria to build from. This is information that is found in the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.
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Therapy Interfering Behaviors are behaviors that a client or therapist can have that interrupts the therapeutic process. This list is important ( find list at www.findingmiddlepath.com ) to keep handy to revert to when you feel something is “off” or you are “plateauing” in therapy.
Call out the behavior so you can have the best therapeutic experience.
Do you know how to effectively say YES and NO? The following is the DBT criteria for how to learn the intensity and the criteria on asking for a need to be met or for you to say no effectively and still maintain the relationship.
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In Interpersonal Effectiveness the DEAR MAN, GIVE, FAST skills they all work together. We finish up the 3 part skill series as we discuss the FAST skill and then talk about how all 3 come together.
The GIVE Skill in Interpersonal Effectiveness is a great reminder of our approach and how we address people who we are asking something from or saying No to. It is hard to set boundaries and learning how to ask for our needs to be met. The give skill is a way to slow it down, focus on the things you can control ( such as your body, tone of voice and approach ) and getting what you need.